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Yes I have a 2 Year Old, You Can Stop Staring Now!

Toddler Tantrums

This past weekend I was having lunch with my friend and her daughter. Our girls are the same age and they are in the same dance class. Afer class we occasionally go out to to lunch. This Saturday we decided to go to Cracker Barrel and of course we had to wait about 20 minutes for a table because it was Saturday. Luckily we got through that waiting period with no problems!

Once we sat down we ordered our food and waited once again. This time wasn’t so smooth. If you are the parent of a toddler you can understand that lunch with two 2-year-olds may not be a walk in the park, I have fully accepted this LOL.

One kid wanted to play with the little table game which we only had one of, so we got another from a table nearby. Fair enough right? No, because they both are territorial and want to play with both and not share. LOL. The food finally came and we began to eat and enjoy each others company.

Once we were done eating my friend and I just sat talking. We are both entrepreneurs so we try to talk about ways we can collaborate and what’s going on with our respective businesses. But of course with 2-year-olds your lunch date can quickly turn left real quick.

This is a message to people who stare when my toddler has a tantrum. Yes, I have a 2-year-old and yes she has meltdowns. Toddlers do not have the brain toΒ handle different emotions like adults. They are either completely happy or completely sad, but they cannot balance the two. When toddlers become overwhelmed, which is quite easy to do when you have an immature brain and very limited ways to express your feelings, it can go downhill quickly.

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Tantrums and meltdowns normal for toddlers and they are actually healthy for child development. It is and can be very exhausting for us as parents when our toddlers have tantrums but A tantrum is not misbehavior so please understand this message.

So to the womenΒ staring at the table next to us. No, I am not going to spank my child because she is having a tantrum. She is just expressing herself in the best way that she can at that moment and I am not sorry. Instead, I will tell my child that it is ok and that “Mommy is here”. Screaming back at her won’t help the situation. If possible I try to take her out of the environment and get somewhere and try to calm her down. Listen, I am still learning in this parenting world and I am not perfect. But, please stop staring at me when my toddler is having a tantrum in public.

Signed Just a Mom who loves her child.

Do you have a toddler? What are your experiences with tantrums? What do you do to calm your child down?

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  • Candice
    November 16, 2016 at 7:38 pm

    Amen Sista! I have a 15 month old and an 8 year old. I had to go through it with my son and now I’m in the beginning stages with my daughter. If anything, we need support from other parents. Like they don’t know what it’s like. It’s hard dealing with tantrums in those types of situations. I feel ya and you handled it like a boss.

    • Michelle Thames
      November 16, 2016 at 7:54 pm

      Thank you girl! I agree with you. If more parents would just support instead of stare! #likeaboss! I like that LOL! Thanks so much for reading!

  • Karyn Lee-Garcia
    November 16, 2016 at 10:24 pm

    Yes! My daughter is 6 now but I completely understand all of this. Children at that age do not comprehend a stern voice, a request, or reprimand. All they understand is holding them and comforting them on their level preferably eye-to-eye. You got this!

    • Michelle Thames
      November 16, 2016 at 10:54 pm

      Thank you so much! I am so happy that so many moms are able to relate! Thanks for reading and sharing your tips! πŸ™‚

  • Elizabeth
    November 28, 2016 at 8:38 pm

    I am a mom of two girls whom are grown now, you did an excellent job. Don’t pay attention to the crayness. Sometimes people act like they never seen or had children of their own. Either way please just keep things simple by loving your child through whatever feeling their having.

    • Michelle Thames
      November 29, 2016 at 10:24 pm

      Thank you so much! πŸ™‚

  • JerΓ©
    December 5, 2016 at 11:47 am

    Great post sista! Frankly, if crying children bother you when you’re out to eat, refrain from family restaurants, because it’s bound to happen. Especially a place like Crackel Barrel with that store FULL of toys that children are most likely not going home with, a meltdown is seconds away from occurring. You have my full support with little Miss Riley because I already know the deal. Keep it up. You’re an awesome mommy!

    • Michelle Thames
      December 5, 2016 at 1:44 pm

      Thank you! That means a lot!

  • Divajordan
    December 6, 2016 at 11:19 am

    Omg! I was in this situation this morning! (Not as a mom but as the lady at the next table ) the poor mom was so embarrassed and I just kept reading and looking up to smile ever so often. She apologized profusely and I finally said “Girl please, sometimes I wish I could just let loose like that , just one more time!” No staring. Just a gentle “we are human moment.”

    P.S. Your daughter is ADORABLE!

    • Michelle Thames
      December 6, 2016 at 9:45 pm

      LOL! Aww thank you!

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