I’ve been a mom now for 2 years, which I know isn’t a long time at all. It has went by so fast that I cannot believe I have a 2-year-old toddler!! Everything other people tell you is nothing like it really is being a new mom. Every moms experience is definitely different. Honestly, there is no right or wrong way when it comes to being a new mom. The best preparation for this job is learning on the fly, especially in the first 2 years. Nothing that I was told beforehand could have prepared me better than experiencing motherhood for what it is. Here are 6 things that I learned in my 2 years a new mom.
- You must have patience. Without this you will cry every single day! Babies cry and you have no idea why, you will find yourself trying to be a mind reader and it’s exhausting. Have patience though it will get better! Babies spit up on your clothes, toddlers tell you no and don’t listen. Things happen period. I learned to just breathe and go with the flow. No point in crying over spilled milk, well unless is breast-milk!!
- Nothing will go as planned and it’s perfectly ok! I have learned to accept that you may never have that perfect mall date with your girls ever again if toddlers are involved. Your perfect family picture may involve crazy faces, missing shoes, and dirty T-shirts and that’s perfectly ok. As long as you accept that nothing will go is planned you are all good! LOL
- Ask for help when you need it. I am the type of person that never asks anyone for help with ANYTHING. I don’t know why, I was just raised that way I guess. But believe me, this all changed when I had a baby. I ask my husband for help with everything! Please ask for help if you can, don’t try to be superwoman and do everything yourself. I learned the hard way from a true burnout. You don’t want to be there trust me. So if you have someone who can help you ask them for help.
- Tears are ok. Yes, it is ok to cry. Some days you will sit at the end of your bed and just start crying. They could be tears of joy, sadness, frustration, or no reason at all, but I am here to let you know that it is ok to let those tears out. If you don’t they will just build up as more frustration that you don’t need later on.
- Showering is sometimes only a luxury. Yuck, I know smelly mommy? Oh, showering alone is a luxury! My child is always around when I am in the shower. She is either at the door or playing close to the bathroom, or trying to get in the shower with me. Oh, and we have come to the good ole fingers under the door while I am trying to have some privacy going to the bathroom. Privacy, whats that?
- Self-Care is so important. I am not that good at recognizing when I need to practice self-care. It is so important that moms practice self-care. Even if it is just getting out the house to go to Target, you need alone time. It is important that you take care of yourself, so that you can take care of your family.
What have you learned as a new mom?