my relaxed days… rockin a bob
- R to L: March 2011, June 2011, Aug 2011, May 2012
PATIENCE is key!!! I transitioned from 2009-2011. I will say that transitioning was very hard! I had no idea how to do my hair.The two textures were like night and day!!! I chose to go to the hairdresser every two weeks to have her do my hair because I didn’t know what to do with it at ALL!!!. I wore my hair mostly straight during the beginning of my transition. I did mini chops while transitioning, so each time I went to the shop I had her cut some of the relaxed ends little by little. I continued this until one day I just said ok just cut the rest off!!! I was just simply tired of having two textures, and confident enough that my hair was a length of my liking :). My advice is that patience is key… weather you BC or decide to transition you have to be patient. I know its hard looking at all these sites seeing all this beautiful hair that is big, long, full!!! But you will get there it just takes time, nobody’s hair grows over night!!! When I first started I wanted my hair to resemble CurlyNikki’s so bad!!
Here are a few of my tips:
To make it through your natural hair transition phase with a little or no frustration attempt to try these tips:
1. First Make sure you choose the right styles for your hair
One of the biggest challenges for transitioners may be what hairstyles to try out. Try TnC’s (Twist and Curls) and BnC’s (Braid and Curls) they help hide the two textures and are easy to manage. If you want to try the route I did, you can wear it straight most of the time as well. But you should try to experiment with different styles that work best for you. There are a TON of youtube videos on how to do your hair just about every way you ever thought!! That’s how I learned
2. When Transitioning you will need to have realistic expectations of your hair:
Don’t expect to have CurlyNikki’s or MahagonyCurls hair right away LOL or that girl on YouTube that you have been obsessing over (her hair!!). It will take time for your hair to achieve the length, look, or fullness you desire. You will have to play around with different styles in order to figure out what works if you don’t have realistic expectations you will be upset every time!!! .
3. Take your time with your tresses!
Good hair care is the best hair care. Make sure that you are using moisturizer and paying attention to your ends! Don’t be overly rough with detangling!!! Pay most attention to the invisible line where you natural hair and relaxed ends meet, because you can have major breakage at this point. Too much heat styling can be bad just a FYI, but if its done right there will not be a problem.
4. Be Patient BE PATIENT and Lastly BE PATIENT LOL!
I know I know your like ugh my hair is so not growing!! But actually it is!! It can be frustrating to try to deal with two different textures I know…. but you can stick it out!!. You will have a moment where your like ok that’s it!!! I’M Done back to the relaxer!! WAIT NO DON’T DO IT!! You are only doing that because a relaxer was all you knew.. but that wont solve your problems!!! If you’re really serious about this process of transitioning, some patience will be required. Truth is: Your hair is growing at the rate of ½ inch per month, just like everyone else’s (by the way).
Wear your hair in protective styles to help you through your transition (like Marley Twists or Box Braids). I assure you that soon enough, your hair will be BANGING! (well more than it already is because it’s already gorg!!) Your curls will be POPPIN!! You just wait!! SO DONT GIVE UP!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!- Love!